Success vs. Happiness

Success vs. Happiness

Pairs Well With… “My life is my journey” – Gandhi

Life success

Success can mean a million things depending upon who you are, what you stand for and in what part of the globe you live.  Each of us defines success differently, as we should.  Success is personal and is a result of our finest passions.  Yet, we are judged by others, benchmarked, on what our successes looks like, regardless of what makes us happy.  Isn’t an individual’s happiness what should matter most?

My view of life today is much less superficial than in my 20’s.  Thank goodness!  The lens through which I look at the world is different and it’s powerful. There are no longer blinders on.  The moves I make today are filled with purpose and meaning and are meant for no one more than myself.

Who was I trying to impress all those years with my “roster of fanciness?”  I began building my pint-sized empire at an early age until one day I started questioning why.  Was it to have four pages of great accomplishments to whittle down from to create a show stopping resume?  To impress Mr. Future Husband?  Or did I carry some unconsciously pressure to be the best?  I was achieving things I didn’t care about, and more so, didn’t want.  I wasn’t doing my life for me.

I wanted to make changes in a direction that better suited and fulfilled me, but what were those changes?  How can you move towards an undefined direction?  Life was flourishing for me, but I wanted more.  So much more.  I wanted something I crave as much as a good slice of pizza.   Then…

(Insert light bulb moment here)

I recalled one of the better pieces of advice I’d been given: “I’m not going to tell you how to live your life and I know “the next thing” motivates you, but if you’re trying to achieve all the time, you can’t enjoy at the same time.”  Point taken.  No more mindlessly attending to pieces of my life as a checklist to say, “I did it.”  The challenges, endeavors, meetings – all of it should excite me and make me tick.

Once I gave myself a moment to understand what it is I gravitated towards, I began to feel energized and re-inspired.

And that is when great things started to happen again.

We need to find passion and excitement in all that we do.  Think about how many days in a year we go about our lives unengaged and uninspired.

More than is necessary.

To me, success is how many lives I touch, the big risks I take to challenge myself, and the lessons I learn at the end of each day.  Today, I’m on a fantastic, focused and determined path – one that makes me happy.

Once you determine what makes you happy, that’s life success.  Life is as simple as that.  It’s your success and don’t let anyone else tell you it’s not.

Since I’ve published this post, I quit my job, followed my heart and embarked on a global travel journey where I sometimes fish for food by hand and eat weird critters in new countries. 

14 comments on “Success vs. Happiness
  1. I share the same sentiment and have written a post like this too. It’s good to find like-minded bloggers. Nice post, I really liked the way it goes. 🙂

  2. Katie Turner says:

    This just elevated me about 8 notches! Thanks, friend! We do get stuck in our own heads and own tiny worlds and get bogged down by what we are “supposed” to be doing, not always what makes us happy. I know for me, transitioning from ‘the world is my oyster twenties’ to ‘wow shit is getting kind of real now thirties’ was really hard and everyone else was making it look easy so I especially related to this and maybe it’s because I wasn’t quite sure where my journey was taking me either. So thank you for sharing because I don’t think this is a topic that often gets discussed even though we all secretly go through it. #Inspired.

    • Carin Nicole says:

      You’re welcome. I’m glad I elevated your morning! I also agree that this topic isn’t talked about, or pushed, enough. The bottom line is, it’s normal and okay. The hardest part is changing mindset!

  3. Dawn says:

    I must say that this is so spot on and applicable to anyone of us in life. I know back 5 years ago when I had my baby and stayed in more and said no to more and more things, that I had to re-evaluate. At first it was really hard for me to miss out and I didnt want to lose touch with my friends that didnt have kids, but then had a come to jesus with myself that it was ok. And it was ok because it made me happy to stay in and spend more time with my new little family, while still going out on occasion and keeping my friendships alive.
    This was amazing and something everyone should read! #taketimetosmelltheroses

    • Carin Nicole says:

      Dawn, I’m so glad you enjoyed this piece. Like you, finding balance, and implementing action against what is important can be challenging. SO glad to hear you are able to enjoy your family and friends these days.

  4. Indira says:

    Excellent post. And yes, inspiring also.

  5. Diane Staba says:

    Beautifully inspiring

  6. This Girl says:

    I can relate! Thanks for sharing!

  7. nikkispeaks says:

    I love this, and I read a the right time. Feel likes so man of us in a battle between the two.

  8. Dawn Marie says:

    Life is a wonderful balancing act…that is in constant need of re-evaluation to make certain we are not tipping the scales!! Blessings in your efforts to balance life out!

  9. cracTpot says:

    Some days success is defined as binge watching an entire season of Scandal. Some days it’s checking off my entire ‘to do’ list and half of my husband’s while making my children giggle as a roast beef dinner cooks in the oven. Battling with anxiety and depression has taught me to grab a hold of joy whenever I happen to find it…now I just worry that I’m raising three little hedonists 😉

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