Perfectly Imperfect

Pairs Well With… “Everyone makes mistakes in life, but that doesn’t mean they have to pay for them the rest of their life.  Sometimes amazing people make bad choices.  It doesn’t mean they are bad people.  It means they are human.” – Unknown

I don’t understand why life doesn’t come with an instruction manual, something to keep us on track and help us ease through the uncomfortable moments that life can sling at us. Making life choices is hard enough the way it is, let alone managing the pressure of not screwing up.

Regardless, our mistakes make us who we are, but we can’t let them, and shouldn’t let them, define us. They make us better in the long run, and our relationships stronger because of them.  I’m sure of it.  I’d like to think that in some odd way, mistakes build character and cause only temporary loss of street cred.

We learn from them. We change because of them.

Mistakes are a game of strategy: what is your next move, and how do you course correct when you’ve temporarily gotten off track?  It’s one thing to stumble, but much more noble when you own it and work to make it right.

There’s the difference.

Life would be seemingly easier if I were perfect, but I’m far from it.  We. All. Are. I’d like to think that I’m “perfectly imperfect.”

I am very hard on, and at, forgiving myself. What we all need to remember, myself included, is that we need to give ourselves the grace to make mistakes and know that the world won’t come to an end. We need opportunities to redeem ourselves.  We need others to love us in spite of our mistakes and our shortcomings, not run from them. We need patience. We need our people to believe in us, remember that we are human, and not forget about our beautiful traits.

We love those in our life because they are flawed, not because they pretend to be perfect.

Here’s the reality about mistakes:

We all make them and feel terrible when we do.

We would take them back if we could.  

We don’t make them on purpose.

Accept them.  Own them.  Move forward.

Moving forward means not waiting for the other shoe to drop.  Believe in forward progress.

They make us uncomfortable, but in the long run stronger.

They allow us to become better versions of ourselves, and to know that we are capable of change.

Always progress over Perfection.

Forgiveness works two ways.  You may need it today.  Be generous when someone asks you for it tomorrow.

When we make mistakes is when we need love the most.

Whenever I hit a bump in the road, like a bad sitcom, Cher’s If I Could Turn Back Time plays mockingly in the back of my mind.  Sadly, I haven’t figured out time travel and teleportation yet in order to remedy moments where I’ve faltered.

As I reflect on mistakes I’ve made in life, I begin to see, realize and know that I’ve done a million things right. Those wonderful moments shouldn’t be dismissed or be negated.  I’m proud of the lessons I’ve learned and I’m only going to get better.

The only way to go is up.

I’ve got this.  

You’ve got this.  

We’ve got this.  

And with that, I leave you with some Cher…because without, this post just wouldn’t be right.

What would you do if you could turn back time?  

5 Responses to “Perfectly Imperfect”

  1. guru_dmax

    There’s always that one question that many people like to ask. “If you could go back and change anything in your life, what would it be?” I never understood this question because it meant erasing a part of my being. Mistakes are a part of us which allows us so much more room to grow.

    Accept them. Own them. Move forward.

    Well said sister! Well said!!

    • Pairs Well With...

      I agree! Making mistakes, or life choices overall, allows us to grow, and shapes us into who we are today. It’s never to late to learn from our past to help us move forward into better versions of ourselves.


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