10 Ways to Tune Into Yourself & Unwind

Pairs Well With…”Catch My Breath” by Kelly Clarkson


Understatement of the Year: Life can be overwhelming.

Realistic Statement of the Year: Life can be overwhelming, demanding, chaotic, and likely unmanageable some days – and usually all at one time.

Demands of each of us are greater than ever, and there are always a million and two things to get done.  I used to ask myself “How am I going to get this all done?” when I should have been asking “Why the hell am I here?  I don’t even know if I want to be doing this.”

I’m a busy body, and one of my favorite hobbies is saying yes.  To almost everything.  I try to commit to only a couple of plans in my week, but then something else happens to pop up that excites me, so naturally I add it to the calendar as well.  When I’m looking at the week ahead in its entirety, I usually go “Oh shit.  This is going to be a big week.”  Every. Week.  Repeat.

I got into a habit that I call “checklisting.”  Checklisting is a form of going about your day, moving from one task or event to the next, without fully processing, engaging or enjoying any of what you’re doing.  Let’s be honest, if you’re constantly thinking about where you need to be next, you’re not fully present in your life, and that’s not a good (or healthy) place to be.

Think about it: making plans with yourself, one person, when you don’t have to consult anyone else should be a breeze, right?  Wrong.  “Me Time” is the first thing to go when life gets busy, often because we think that someone else needs or deserves our time more than we do.  But then doesn’t it stand to reason that if everyone else is deserving of your time, then you should be worthy of your own time too?

All in all, “Me Time” is up to you to carve out and prioritize, even if it means having to schedule it in.  Your personal time is something to be cherished. It is your peace of mind, your time to get to know yourself better and your self-reflection for the day.  You deserve it!

Here are 10 fun ways to tune into yourself and take a break:

Make a Skype date with a friend you haven’t talked to in a while.  Put on your yoga pants, pour yourselves a glass of wine, cozy up on the couch and get connected. It’s surprising just how energizing it can be to connect in a new and virtual way with your favorite bestie.


Recreate your favorite restaurant meal in your kitchen.  The process of cooking can be extremely relaxing.  It’s like crafting – but with food!  Looking for a good recipe?  Try making a pot of Pho or some Warm Irish Cheddar & Kale Dip.


Get your zen on.  Whether it be a gentle yoga class, walk or meditation, slowing it down will do wonders.  Sometimes less is more.

Meditation yoga breathing calm

Be your own bath concierge. Prepare yourself a silver tray of fresh fruit, champagne and your favorite scented oil or bath salts. Draw yourself the bath of a lifetime.  Turn on your favorite tunes and you have a spa retreat to die for.


Work it outTry a new workout class, whether aerial fitness or boxing and sweat it out. You may surprise yourself with what you’re capable of, and how good it feels. You’ll be so focused on new moves and workout routines that your day will slowly fade into the background.


Table Pour Une.  Yes, table for one.  Make a date with yourself at that restaurant you’ve had your eye on, but haven’t quite gotten around to trying.  Don’t worry about dining solo.  You may have the conversation of a lifetime with the stranger sitting next to you.


Play Picasso Go to your nearest Michael’s for some blank canvases, brushes and paint. Painting is an inexpensive way to go with the flow and unleash your inner artist. Want a four-week challenge?  Paint your canvas for 20 minutes each week for a total of four weeks and see the difference in emotion come to life.


Be a bookworm.  Tune out the rest of the world while you immerse yourself in someone else’s.

reading books

Take a lesson, any lesson.  Commit to trying to something you’ve always wanted to learn. Piano, golf, dance, French language or cooking. Anything works!

dance lesson-fitness

Pen to paper.  Putting thoughts onto paper is very freeing.  Try your hand at poetry, make a journal entry or attempt a short story with inspiration from your life.  Let emotion lead the way, and let your hand follow.


Just remember, you have as many hours in a day as Beyonce.  She just gets paid more.


11 Responses to “10 Ways to Tune Into Yourself & Unwind”

  1. Moola Mom

    Perfect timing for me to find/read this post. I’m encouraged to slow it down and stop “saying yes” to everything under the sun!

    • Pairs Well With...

      That’s great to hear! Balancing how much we say yes and commit to can be a challenge, as is the stress of managing it all. I’ve found that really embracing some alone time helps reground me in day-to-day!


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